"Success isn't magic or hocus-pocus -- it's simply learning
how to focus."
-- Jack Canfield
Law of Attraction Questions,
Answers, Insights & Experience
ABOUT AFFIRMATIONS
Q: I have a question
in regards to some "ideas" that I want to patent. I have been
doing affirmations and thinking about this. My question is how to
proceed to the final stpe -- TO PRESENT THE IDEA TO THE COMPANY AND
TO BE PAID WHAT I WANT FOR THE IDEA. Here is what I have been
saying...
I know that the
Universe wants me to profit from my ideas, and I have already been
directed to people that can help me." "I believe that the
Universe will provide to me the remaining steps to proceed to my end
desires of seeing my ideas become patented and my obtaining $100,000
million dollars for my idea."
Is there anything
else that I can say or feel that would be better to help bring the
end result about?
A, I, & E:
Here's what I believe to
be true... Affirmations are a tool to help us connect with the
FEELING place of the manifestation. So, in choosing/formulating an
affirmation, it's less important what we SAY and MUCH more
important how we FEEL about what we are saying.
Some people can simply say, "It is
done" and it connects them to the certainty of completion. I know
of one person whose only affirmation is "Well-being flows." No
matter what he's wanting to see manifest in his life, he uses the
same affirmation... "Well-being flows" and that helps him feel
connected to the abundance and power of the Universe that is
surrounding him at all times. Other people can just say "Om" and it
creates that connected peaceful feeling for them.
I don't believe there is a
magical combination of words -- like a magical combination of
lottery numbers -- and when we find that magical combination, then
we will "win" what we are desiring. Affirmations just
a means to an end. So... What IS the "end?"
Well... Most people think that the
"end" is when we get our manifestation. That one thought is
actually something that will probably push what we desire away. If
you remember my story about wanting the training job
(click here for an audio recording of a
teleconference in which this story is told), you'll
remember that when I was TRYING to get the training job I wanted, I
was taking the stance that my life would be great when I got the job
I wanted, and until then, my life was not going to be so great.
It was that feeling of "I am not happy with my life right now" that
kept the training job away and kept me in unhappy circumstances. It
was only when I finally quit that company and stopped thinking about
"getting" a training job, that it manifested all by itself in a way
I couldn't have imagined.
I get the feeling, Hope, that you
are trying to WILL this invention/dea into being. If that is true,
then you are actually pushing it away.
The key is to BE HAPPY NOW.
Be happy with where you are now. Be happy with your life
now. Be happy with your job now. Be happy with your
income now. Be happy with your co-workers now. Be
that happy, carefree, joy-filled person NOW that you imagine
you will be as a successful and prosperous inventor. Take on the
identity of a "successful and prosperous inventor" NOW even
before it has happened. Can you imagine how you are going to feel
when you open your big fat royalty check every month? Focus
on THOSE feelings instead of focusing on the magical words of
affirmation that you think will conjure up your desires like some
magical incantation.
I also feel compelled to tell you
one other thing... Remember Michael from the February 8th
teleconference? He was FIXATED on thinking that he HAD to get a
second location in order to expand his business and be successful.
He was also FIXATED on where he thought that second location should
be. What I'm not sure he revealed on the teleconference is that
he's been fixated on this for A LONG TIME and it hasn't happened
yet. Why? Because he's been placing limitations on the Universe
by dictating the "how." As if the Universe can't figure out
what needs to happen for him to be more successful! It's actually a
rather funny thought -- I need to tell the Universe HOW my success
is going to happen. (Click
here to hear Michael put the Law of Attraction into Action on the
"Expanding a Business" audio recording.)
Your success may or may not come
through a successful "pitch," to a particular company. What if the
Universe has something else in mind that would ultimately yield you
just as much or even more? Would you be willing to accept success
if it didn't come in the way that you thought it should?
My suggestion to you is to affirm
less and feel more. Affirm less and listen more. DO less and
BE more. It is from a state of beingness that our desires are
allowed to gestate, grow, and eventually manifest.
And whenever you find yourself
asking yourself, "What should I do next?" I hope the answer that
immediately pops into your head is "Just be."
I hope this is
helpful!
Barbara
SPOUSES ON DIFFERENT PATHS
Q:
I don't know how it's possible to feel true intimacy
with my spouse when he is on a different path and doesn't believe
what I believe.
A, I & E:If you can't feel love for your spouse under ALL conditions,
then this, as you know, is a very conditional love. What you are
saying is "You have to behave in a way that suits me or else I won't
be able to unconditionally accept you." The question is, is this
the kind of person you want to be? The GIFT that your husband
is giving you right now from his "different path" is an opportunity
for YOU to find unconditional love, which, of course, is the
ultimate "intimacy." When you transcend the present
circumstances and find the unconditional love that is aching to be
expressed for this man, then you will will be connecting with
the energy of all things good and wonderful. And, of course,
once you connect with that, you will find yourself living in a world
of all things good and wonderful.
There
are many spiritual masters from many spiritual disciplines who
believe that our purpose for being on planet earth is to express
unconditional love, which is inside of us and all around us and
accessible at any time. So the question is, will you be
listening to and answer the call of unconditional love in this
situation? The choice is yours... You can continue to
try to fix your husband, or you can just make peace inside of yourself.
If you don't make the choice for unconditional love and acceptance
with your souse now, it's okay... You'll draw another opportunity to
yourself to do it again in the future... and another... and another...
I
hope this is helpful!
Barbara
SAVING THE DAY WHEN MY HUSBAND
CAN'T DO IT
Q:
Right now I'm in a situation
where I feel I am being forced to get a job outside the home because
my husband is not going to be able to financially take care of the
family. I know I CAN fix this situation, and I HAVE fixed this
type of situation many times in the past, and I feel really
empowered afterwards. But right now I don't want to fix this.
But I also don't feel safe if I don't fix it. If I do go back
to work, I want to feel like I am creating my own destiny. I
don't want to settle and die.
A, I & E: If you identify with the role of
"fixer" or "savior," then you're always going to draw to you
people, circumstances and conditions that need to be fixed or
saved. So, if you're not a "savior," or a "fixer," then who
are you? Well... Perhaps you could try being a "creator." A
creator is someone who isn't constantly reacting to crises and
running around putting out fires. Rather, the energy of a
"creator" is very proactive. If you weren't spending so much
time "saving" and "fixing," what would you be doing with that
time? Creating! I have found that the feeling of empowerment
that comes with seeing an idea become a reality is MUCH more
empowering than any feeling I got after successfully "saving the
day."
Another aspect of your current issue
is "safety"... Fixers/Saviors (and I have been a GREAT one in my
lifetime too!) put a whole lot of faith in themselves, and very
little in anyone or anything else. In my case, this was a
resourcefulness that I adopted at a very young age just to
survive. "If I can't get what I need from you, mom and dad, then
I'm just going to figure out a way to get it for myself." And
while that was the best option I had at the time, it wasn't the
best option in the long run. Certainly there has been a power
greater than me that has been ready, willing, and able to help me
out all along. Now as a clear-thinking adult, I can CHOOSE
to put my trust in that power.
So right now you've got the feeling
of "empowerment" as your reward for "fixing it" and "lack of
safety" as your consequence if you choose not to "fix it." These
two things are keeping you stuck in a very powerful paradigm. I
think you can break free on either end... Either you can
focus on feeling safe by putting more trust in the power of the
universe and its ability to orchestrate things on your behalf, or
you can find ways to feel empowered that don't have anything to do
with being a superhero.
One
last thing... If you think your husband can't do something,
then you are adding energetic fuel to a situation you don't really
want to continue. So you may want to spend some time
making a list of all the amazing qualities of your husband, and
include on that list all of his talents, capabilities, and
successes. I doubt if you married him because you had a low
opinion of him. So reconnect with the best aspects of him in
order to shift the energy in that relationship. Right now
he's just playing a role in your own Savior Melodrama, so when you
give him a break, you will be giving yourself a break too.
I hope this is helpful!
Barbara
STUCK IN A RUT
Q:
My day is filled with "shoulds." There's many
things I think I "should" be doing, but I don't do any of it
because I frankly don't want to. I have a lot of struggle
and resistance and I lack the impetus to move forward. I
want to feel invigorated and alive and on purpose. I want to
have a life that is creative and spontaneous and fun. How
can the Lawof Attraction help me?
A, I & E:
Getting out of a rut sometimes requires creating a new one. Isn't
it going to be fun to be in a "rut" of spontaneity, creativity,
and fun? Your old rut was created by a whole lot of repetition.
So your new "rut" needs the same amount of repetition.
Spontaneity, creativity, and fun. Spontaneity, creativity,
and fun. Spontaneity, creativity, and fun. Feel it,
do it, get into the habit of it... Spontaneity,
creativity, and fun.
And for the love of Pete, forget
about the "shoulds." You're not doing anything about them
anyway, so quit "shoulding" on yourself. When you
give any of your attention to what you "should" be doing, you are
attract into your life more "shoulds." Take all of that
"should" energy and give it instead to your new life...
Spontaneity, creativity, and fun.
Also, I wanted to tell you that I
have a friend in the LA area and another friend in Texas who both
took an improv comedy class and had a BLAST with it. This type of
class (or something like it) could be something that could help
your energy break free in a very significant way. And this is the
sense that I get about you... Something is wanting to BREAK
FREE. And I think what that "something" might be is the true
essence of you that is dying to be expressed. The way to let
your spirit be more expressive is by EXPRESSING it! Find some
kind of class or group or activity that really helps you tap into
your inner wackiness. And go into that activity with no
expectations other than to connect with the energy of your future
reality. The more you do that, the more you will bring your
future reality into your present reality, which is...
... spontaneous, creative, and FUN!
I hope this is helpful!
Barbara
Q:
I
too have been listening to "The Secret" consistently and have
tried to be positive. I am disappointed because I haven't received
anything that I asked for. Also, my husband's business hasn't been
good lately and he hasn't been able to take a paycheck for himself
in that time. I have been faithful to t"The Secret" tapes
and DVD and still things haven't improved.
A, I & E:What a great
question! Here's my experience... You'll never get what you
"want." Why? Because when you're in the vibration of "wanting,"
that is equal to a vibration of "I don't have." And when you are
sending out a vibration of "I don't have," guess what? You don't
have!
A quick example from my life. I bought a second vacation home and
had next to nothing inside of it. I had to furnish it from top to
bottom from silverware to major furnishings. I had an idea of the
things that I wanted and set out to look for them. I drove
thousands of miles, visited dozens of stores, and spent hundreds
of hours searching, searching, searching. But with all that effort
I had found very little that I wanted and which fit my vision. One
day I was in my car on my way to more stores and I was feeling
weary from the search. I was listening to a Law of Attraction CD
and the most marvelous thought popped into my head... I need to
quit "searching" and start "finding" instead! Instantly, I felt
different because it feels different to "find" things than it does
to "search" for them. The "finding" energy has a sense of
certainty to it... "I know I'll find it" feels a lot different
than "Am I EVER going to find it?" That day was a HIGHLY
productive shopping day! I found many things and - as a bonus -
they were ALL on sale! Within 3 weeks I had "found" what I had
previously "searched for" for over three months. Coincidence? Not
if you understand "the secret!"
So, "the secret" is to find a vibration of "having" even BEFORE
you "have." So... What will you feel like when you HAVE what you
desire? Happiness? Joy? Relief? Accomplishment? You have to tune
into what that would be for you and FEEL IT NOW... even before you
have any reason or excuse to feel it. FEEL what you think you will
feel like when you HAVE the thing. FEEL what you will feel like
when your husband's business is turned around. FEEL what you will
feel like when you have SO MUCH that the yearning is gone inside
of you. What will the "wanting" be replaced with? Gratitude? Joy?
Generosity? Will you be full to overflowing? Will you love your
life so much that you will be skipping down the street and sending
loving thoughts to strangers? BE that NOW. Even when you have NO
GOOD REASON to be happy and carefree and optimistic and hopeful,
BE IT ANYWAY. This is YOUR part of the Law of Attraction creation
process. And everything else is NOT your job. So get to work on
connecting to some positive vibing feelings, and then get out of
the way and let the Universe go to work on your behalf! It works
if you do YOUR work and let the Universe (god, spirit, whatever)
do the rest.
My advice after many Law of Attraction successes is stop wanting
and start feeling!
I hope this is helpful!
Barbara
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